Imagine you’re the judge in a dance competition. One of the dancers is on a higher level than the others. She moves with grace and fluidity, and she makes almost no mistakes. You almost can’t hear the thud when she hits the ground after a jump, you almost can’t see the sweat on her brow. She makes it look easy. So you disqualify her. Because if it looks easy, it must be easy, and you don’t want to commend a dancer who hasn’t put any work into it.
That’s what you do when you say “You’re not autistic, you’re just a bit peculiar.”
Autism is not the result. Autism is the work.